There is a great need to know how to choose the right man. Doing so will help you live right for the rest of your life hence, the reason why this topic cannot be exhausted. To know the right one, you need to ask the right questions to get the right answers. Asking the following questions and answering them sincerely will help you get this right once and for all.

Is he God Fearing?

Before you marry someone, it is crucial you are both in faith. You need to examine his faith life and determine if he truly loves and fears God. If he does, he will definitely treat you right. Check his habits, interests, and behavior. These things often are indicators of his faith in God.

Is he faithful?

One of the things you should consider is if he is faithful to you. Is he a flirt? Is he unreliable? Do you trust each other enough to let go and be open? These are questions you should answer before ascertaining that he is the one for you. If you notice any disturbing behavior from him, it’s time to talk! And then you can make your decisions based on the outcome of the talk. Do not be in a hurry to leave a relationship, likewise don’t stay back when you honestly know in your heart it’s not wise to force the relationship. 

Is he in love with you?

From his actions, can you tell if he loves you or not? If you still cannot tell, its better you wait some more till you are certain of this fact. A man who loves you will be patient with you and not put the pressure of sex on you.  A man who is not crazy about you in courtship will make you crazy in marriage because you will get frustrated. Is he excited about you? Is he proud of you? Does he respect you? A man who doesn’t respect you now will abuse you later. Read between the lines and be sincere with yourself.

Can You Influence him?

From your past dealings and discussions, can you say he listens to you? Does he shut you down when you’re trying to advise him or does he listen to you and take your advice? Despite the fact that a husband is in control of the house, a wife should be able to influence her man. If you discover that he is autocratic in leadership and listens to no one, you may want to analyze your relationship more critically. 

Can he Protect me?

Every woman desires protection and security in her relationship. He must be able to look out for what’s best for you, ensure you are safe and take a stand by you both physically and spiritually. 

Is he abusive?

 How does he react when he is angry? Does he throw things, have temper tantrums or even hit you? There are little signs, you would have been seeing even though it hasn’t resulted into proper abuse, please do not ignore those little signs as they would become bigger issues when you finally marry him. It is better to deal with it early while in a dating/ courting relationship, than when already in marriage. 

How do you have one voice on marital/future issues? 

There are so many things to be agreed upon to avoid conflicts in marriage. Some of such things are: Career, where to worship, In-laws, relationship, Food, Culture, Mode of dressing, Lifestyle, Number of children, Money, etc. Please consider such issues carefully before going into a lifetime Union. 

Are you Sure?

Having considered these and many more, are you sure he is the one for you? Do you still entertain doubts? Do you have peace of mind concerning him? If you don’t, do not ignore that feeling and if you do, I wish you the very best in your years ahead. Cheers! 

by Dabira Magazine