WHAT A HUSBAND NEEDS FROM A WIFE IS NEVER SEX.
By: B.I.C. Abeiku Okai.

Sex is an important element in marriage and until there is sexual intercourse between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important sex is in marriage.

When you look at how aggressive men are towards sex you may think that what a man needs from a woman is sex. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married sex is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT SEX."

Many young girls think because they are sexually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is sex. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which reason they will be chosen above all.

There is this young girl who is very beautiful and sexually active. Due to that she thought sex is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her sexual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and reason beyond

imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.

The problem was simple. She thought sex was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not sex. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his sex drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has vagina but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.

What does the holy say, "wife, submit to your husband." The reason is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.

Sadly, many young ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.

When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely. There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need sex, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.

I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.

Is he the RIGHT man for me?

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There is a great need to know how to choose the right man. Doing so will help you live right for the rest of your life hence, the reason why this topic cannot be exhausted. To know the right one, you need to ask the right questions to get the right answers. Asking the following questions and answering them sincerely will help you get this right once and for all.

Is he God Fearing?

Before you marry someone, it is crucial you are both in faith. You need to examine his faith life and determine if he truly loves and fears God. If he does, he will definitely treat you right. Check his habits, interests, and behavior. These things often are indicators of his faith in God.

Is he faithful?

One of the things you should consider is if he is faithful to you. Is he a flirt? Is he unreliable? Do you trust each other enough to let go and be open? These are questions you should answer before ascertaining that he is the one for you. If you notice any disturbing behavior from him, it’s time to talk! And then you can make your decisions based on the outcome of the talk. Do not be in a hurry to leave a relationship, likewise don’t stay back when you honestly know in your heart it’s not wise to force the relationship. 

Is he in love with you?

From his actions, can you tell if he loves you or not? If you still cannot tell, its better you wait some more till you are certain of this fact. A man who loves you will be patient with you and not put the pressure of sex on you.  A man who is not crazy about you in courtship will make you crazy in marriage because you will get frustrated. Is he excited about you? Is he proud of you? Does he respect you? A man who doesn’t respect you now will abuse you later. Read between the lines and be sincere with yourself.

Can You Influence him?

From your past dealings and discussions, can you say he listens to you? Does he shut you down when you’re trying to advise him or does he listen to you and take your advice? Despite the fact that a husband is in control of the house, a wife should be able to influence her man. If you discover that he is autocratic in leadership and listens to no one, you may want to analyze your relationship more critically. 

Can he Protect me?

Every woman desires protection and security in her relationship. He must be able to look out for what’s best for you, ensure you are safe and take a stand by you both physically and spiritually. 

Is he abusive?

 How does he react when he is angry? Does he throw things, have temper tantrums or even hit you? There are little signs, you would have been seeing even though it hasn’t resulted into proper abuse, please do not ignore those little signs as they would become bigger issues when you finally marry him. It is better to deal with it early while in a dating/ courting relationship, than when already in marriage. 

How do you have one voice on marital/future issues? 

There are so many things to be agreed upon to avoid conflicts in marriage. Some of such things are: Career, where to worship, In-laws, relationship, Food, Culture, Mode of dressing, Lifestyle, Number of children, Money, etc. Please consider such issues carefully before going into a lifetime Union. 

Are you Sure?

Having considered these and many more, are you sure he is the one for you? Do you still entertain doubts? Do you have peace of mind concerning him? If you don’t, do not ignore that feeling and if you do, I wish you the very best in your years ahead. Cheers! 

by Dabira Magazine

A store that sells husbands has just opened where a woman may go to choose a husband from among many men. The store is composed of 6 floors, and the men increase in positive attributes as the shopper ascends the flights.

There is, however, a catch. As you open the door to any floor you may choose a man from that floor, but if you go up a floor, you cannot go back down except to exit the building.

So a woman goes to the shopping center to find a husband.

On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 – These men have jobs.

The woman reads the sign and says to herself, “Well, that’s better than my last boyfriend, but I wonder what’s further up?” So up she goes.

The second floor sign reads:

Floor 2 – These men have jobs and love kids.

The woman remarks to herself, “That’s great, but I wonder what’s further up?” And up she goes again.

The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 – These men have jobs, love kids and are extremely good looking.

“Hmmm, better” she says. “But I wonder what’s upstairs?”

The fourth floor sign reads:

Floor 4 – These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking and help with the housework.

“Wow!” exclaims the woman, “very tempting. BUT, there must be more further up!” And again she heads up another flight.

The fifth floor sign reads:

Floor 5 – These men have jobs, love kids, are extremely good looking, help with the housework and have a strong romantic streak.

“Oh, mercy me! But just think… what must be awaiting me further on?” So up to the sixth floor she goes.

The sixth floor reads:

Floor 6 – You are visitor 6,875,953,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please

Your life partner is your best friend today,tomorrow and always.
This story will help you to understand.

One day, during an evening class for adults, the psychology Teacher entered the class and told students, “Let’s all play a game!” “ What Game?”
The Teacher asked one of the students to volunteer.
A gentleman, Femi came forward.
The Teacher asked him to write 30 names of most important people in his life on blackboard.
Femi wrote names of his family members, relatives, friends,
his colleagues and his neighbors.
The Teacher told him to erase 3 names that Femi considered most unimportant.
Femi erased names of his colleagues.
The Teacher again told him to delete 5 more names. Femi erased his neighbor's names.
This went on until there were just four names left on the blackboard. These were names of his mother, father, wife and the only daughter...
The entire class became silent realizing that this wasn’t a game anymore for Femi alone.
Now, The Teacher told him to delete two more names.
It was a very difficult choice for Femi. He unwillingly deleted his parents names.
“Please delete one more” said the Teacher.
Femi became very nervous and with trembling hands and tears in his eyes he deleted his daughters name. Femi cried painfully...
The Teacher told

Femi to take his seat.
After a while Teacher asked "why your wife? The parents are the ones that nurtured you, and the daughter is the one you gave birth to ??? And you can always find another wife!!!"
Total silence in the class.
Everyone was curious to know his response.
Femi calmly and slowly said, “One day my parents will pass away before me.
My daughter may also leave me when she grows old, for her studies or business or marriage to live with her husband or whatever reason. The only one who will truly share her entire life with me, is my wife”.
All the students stood up and applauded him for sharing this truth of life.
This is true,your life partner is your best friend today, tomorrow and always.

I HAVE NEVER…NEVER EVER IN MY LIFE SLEPT WITH A MAN FOR MONEY, Linda Ikeji writes young LADIES. She is truely an inspiration.

My name is Linda Ikeji. I'm a blogger. I'm 35 years old and I have never...never ever in my life slept with a man for money. Not only have I never done it, I have never even considered it...and here I am with a house that cost me over half a billion naira.

Listen, you are beautiful and you are stronger than you know. There's absolutely nothing you can't achieve if you set your mind to it, put your heart and soul into it.
Up until five years ago, I was a struggling entrepreneur. I can't tell you how many offices in this Lagos I sat in for hours waiting to see people who could support my business...but most times, I never passed the reception area. But I never gave up and I never stopped believing and here I am today.

You too can be this..you can be better than this. No dream is too big, no dream is too small, no mountain is too high...it's all in your mind. It's all up to you. If you believe in you, in your God who is guiding you, then the sky is your starting point.

Please stop waiting around for a man to give to you...to put food on your table and put clothes on your back. I promise you, you can do it for yourself. Start thinking big, believe in yourself, be creative and start working. Realize that your dreams are valid...and nobody will make your dreams come true except you. Find what you are good at. Find something that you are passionate about. Work hard at it. Be consistent. Be patient. Start young. Even if you're not young, it's never too late!

I have been hustling since I left secondary school..started modeling before I entered university in 1998. Was running a modeling agency even while I was a student and made it a full time business after I left university. I never doubted that I would succeed one day, because I was determined. And please do not think this happened over night. I've been blogging since 2006...November this year will make it exactly 9 years. God, consistency and hard work brought me here today.

Unfortunately, a lot of our young girls aren't patient and some are lazy, they want it quick and fast but it doesn't work like that. Success takes time - takes hard work - takes passion - takes consistency - but more than anything else, it takes the Grace of God.

I was a 30 year old broke woman and on my birthday, a very sad and depressed me turned to God and begged him. I told Him you promised me, when will You fulfill Your promise? Am I not Your child? Have I not lived according to Your teachings? When will You bless me? Please God help me...and with tears in my eyes, I begged Him. I cried and I begged and I begged and I begged. A few months later my life changed. Never underestimate God's love for you and the power of prayer.

And never stop working. Listen, I make enough money to hire so many people to work on this blog while I go do other things and enjoy myself...but I don't do that. I'm up while some of you are sleeping, and already blogging before some of you wake up. I don't take this for granted. I know to stay on top, I have to constantly work and nobody will be as dedicated as I am because this is not their own thing. It's mine and I have to keep feeding it. So I'm constantly here!

Young ladies, I promise you...you too can do this. You don't need to spread your legs for any bladdy man - because of how much? N200k? That's how much my shoes cost - so why should you give up your body for that? Your sacred body? God's temple? N200k that you can make in a week or even in a day if you pursue your dreams and still have your dignity intact? You think people don't see that you're messing around with all dem old married men and talking about it? Think ladies, think! When next a man propositions you...tell him to get lost, that you will get yours yourself! Abi, aren't you a woman? You know what they say about women? "A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water.". You are so strong, you don't even know!

Also, if you want God to bless you, you have to have a clean heart. All these backbiting, hating on others, trying to bring people down with hateful words/actions etc - God doesn't like ugly. He has over 6 billion people to look after and you think he will pay extra attention to you if your heart is ugly? Wish people well, help people when you can. Be good to others. But more than anything else be good to yourself. Believe in yourself. It's very easy to give in to feelings of self-doubt and back down when things get tough, but you have to know that God will not give you anything you can't handle.

I swear to you, you are underestimating yourself. If you know the power that you have inside. If you know the things that you are capable of. If you know how far you can go...how high you can reach but you are holding yourself back because you're afraid of failing, because you don't think you have it in you. If only you know that you're stronger than you think. You are so powerful, you don't even know it. I'm not more special than you are. I don't have two heads. We serve the same God. Why can't you succeed? Think ladies, think.

Like Barack Obama's sister said, poverty is not an excuse! I used to sell/market beer at Sheraton hotel, Lagos when I was in university for N1,000 a day. I once lived on 'puff puff' and garri for weeks in UNILAG and I was supposedly a top model but nobody knew what I was going through.

Trust me, I knew poverty. Did you know I lived in Idi-oro, Mushin for 15 years? Up until when I was 25? Did you live in Mushin? Eh, so what's your excuse? I can't even say some things here for my family's privacy but here I am today because I never doubted myself and I never allowed all the doubters to distract me. I was focused. I was determined. I worked hard and I knew the God I served won't let me down. The road was long, sometimes very frustrating and painful but look at me now. God did it because he saw that I was willing!

"Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, “She doesn’t have what it takes.” They will say, “Women don’t have what it takes.”

Please believe in yourself and watch God use you to set as an example for others.

May all your dreams come true!

Kisses.

Oh by the way (addressing the argument I read online this weekend) I don't do anything else. I blog from 4am till midnight, where do I have time to do anything else? When God wants to bless you, He will bless you...even if you're selling toothpick.

Cheers!

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